Husband Filed for Divorce Today

[25yearsmlc]

Sorry Jess but you need to get it together and Lawyer up! Four years is not very long so not sure it will be a long drawn out divorce.

the length of the marriage MAY relate to assets or children but a relatively short marriage does Not mean a shorter divorce. Your state laws, assets brought into the marriage, children, incomes, will affect your property division and your custody and that all takes time to work out.

You can probably slow this down. But NOT by begging or pleading. Please get the Divorce Busting or Divorce Remedy book and read it asap.

The basic premise is that you do MORE of what helps the relationship,

and less or none of what it hurts it.

It's a Simple but radically different approach from what many counselors do. They ask about the past and your history and childhood and all the "issues" instead of being solution based, which this site IS.

Be in the present to solve today's problems.

So, for instance, if he can't stand the nagging or complaining, then criticize NOTHING.

If he says you are too clingy, or needy, then please BACK OFF...

IOW, do the opposite of what has been hurting the marriage AND that is called doing a "180"...

be LESS predictable. READ THE BOOKS ASAP...



Do you have kids? Tell us a little more.

Don't cry or beg he's made up his mind. Stay strong.

Luv

Since I don't know anything about either of you or why there is conflict

I would not venture to say that your h has "made up his mind".

People get confused, emotions cloud judgement and people also change their minds all the time.

To reconcile, your h will have to believe one simple thing:

That marriage to you can be better/different than it was before.

YOU will have to show him that YOU can change and that the marriage can be different.

Even if you think "HE IS WRONG" and "YOU ARE RIGHT", that is NOT important at this moment.

It's not about being right; it's about being happy.

What matters for now, is that YOU SHOW CHANGE IN HOW YOU INTERACT...


and-
do more differrent things, join a club or take a class or learn something that you always wanted to learn.

That's called "GAL" (Getting A Life) and Divorce Busting emphaisizes it b/c it really helps YOU feel better, become better

and become more attractive. Needy clingy crying women are NOT appealing so don't surrender to the anger or pain you feel, in front of him.

Turn your marriage/pain over to God and read these books and hire a DB coach if you can. Divorce costs more, trust me on that.

Become a woman only a fool would leave.

Who were you when you two fell in love? Be that woman again, and read the books and this site.

You are not alone.

You will survive this, you will thrive after this and you may even save your marriage.

NO matter what, you'll save yourself...