Please don't disappear if you two divorce. I think it is SO important that people posting here understand
that while not all the marriages get saved, or can be, ALL LBSers CAN grow and be happy again
regardless of what happens to their marriages...so for you to have come so far and grown so much in a relatively short time
means we/they will benefit from hearing how your new life that YOU create, goes.
And who knows, your h may wake up. There are at least 2 people on this site who reconciled after divorcing and being apart for 5 and 6 years, and I have 2 family members who divorced and remarried years later too.
It happens.
But perhaps MORE importantly is that no matter what your h does,
we want to know what you create for yourself, if it fulfills you,
if you meet another man and have another r, if that is a better healthier one for you,
really it's about
people in pain wanting to know what is on the other side of this pain...
and you'll be a valuable resource no matter what else happens with your h.
Thanks for all your work here. SO valuable.
And btw, I like the letter you wrote but agreed with all of Labug's changes b/c that's where you were speaking for him
or saying 'Your financial" obligations rather than both of yours...and last,
I also think your h is incredibly confused. He may not know exactly what you mean when you say you want to move forward. For all I know, he'll think you mean attend another RV session...
I think if you are ready to send the letter, be clear about what it is you are saying.
What is it, exactly, you are ready to do? Separate finances? Date OPs? File?
But when in doubt, don't...
and keep us posted!
((( )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
