And thank you heartbroke I just saw your post, that means a lot. I am sober but maybe I will go back to some meetings. I am in your corner too my friend! GAL semi-final basketball game in thirty minutes time to drop some threes for a good escape for a bit. Thank you all again :-)
me 38 W 30 T 3 M in 05/2010 Separated 08/2011 Stephchildren (all hers) SS17, SS12, SD8 I filed 8/27, she countered I filed response 9/5 Anxiously waiting on the judge!
...If my W would give me another chance I know for a fact I will once again be the man of her dreams with significant upgrades, and will be the best stepfather I can be...
Become the man of her dreams, with significant upgrades, and the best stepfather you can be:
1) REGARDLESS of if she gives you that chance.
and more importantly:
2) Because YOU want to be that man you ASPIRE to be when you look in the mirror. Not to sound crass here, but F her in this matter. You change for her? And you're failing yourself...and her.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
Hey Jack and anyone who catches a glimpse of this. Had to detach from all things related to my sitch including the board to get my head straight, and it really helped. I'm going to catch up on some sitch's and just wanted to say THANK YOU JACK for the last post I just saw it and greatly appreciate it. Think I'm going to start a new thread with an update which won't be much, I can say I think I am finally at the acceptance phase in this ordeal, which I guess is good. I also detached from my lady friend telling her I still have desires to reconcile my M. For whatever reason she left the door open if I come to the conclusion that things are over. I am still GAL daily and am "happy within myself" but must admit it [censored] not having a woman to lay down with... Haven't communicated with my W since 6/1 and that was at her starting, and somehow I'm still alive... lol I guess that's a sign in more ways than one!
At any rate, hope all are well and good luck to each of you in your respective sitch's!
me 38 W 30 T 3 M in 05/2010 Separated 08/2011 Stephchildren (all hers) SS17, SS12, SD8 I filed 8/27, she countered I filed response 9/5 Anxiously waiting on the judge!
