"I am trying to be more lighthearted, and that is very positive, and such a reward to myself, but I don't know if I'll fit the bill otherwise."

Then you might as well file the paperwork now. You can be that way. It's when you keep telling yourself that you can't that you won't be able to.

"Throw in the kids activities and there's not a lot of time for "bubbly."

You make the time. There are many, many places that teach you how to balance family with couple time.

"Fun, yes, but bubbly, I don't think I'll ever have that."

Then she won't get what she wants and you'll end up D. Besides, no one said you have to go "over the top" go with what you're comfortable with. How were you when you were first dating? Were you always tired, non-engergetic and a downer? I doubt it. You have to be that person again. The person that got lost along the way.


M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER