I do think I don't have him on a pedestal and so I am looking at him with the eyes of someone not in love.
But yes counting all the negatives is a way to cope a bit with rejection/dissapointment because I remind myself well I don't want him anyway! Haha
I did have a reaction to her FB picture and had to have a talk with myself why. And i said over and over to myself "then thats his choice" "then he will live eith that" In a strange way I am thankful that he met someone first because I've had to go through this growth rather than have a band aid of my own.
It's hard thing to admit that your spouse doesn't want to be the person you want them to be even if that's a better person.
I forgot to say I did text him after he left to say thank you (I didn't while he was here) and he said no problem happy to help and he's glad my medical drama is almost over. I didn't reply.
