I've been trying to vary my routine -- I went out yesterday and by the time I came back, he was already asleep. This is huge, and I never did that kind of thing before.
However, I know that one of his complaints was that I didn't do enough around the house. He always did the cooking/cleaning, and he claimed that he LIKED doing all of the cooking/cleaning. His sister told me that he complained to her about it, though, hence my attempt at trying to do the dishes, cook stuff for myself and leave some in the fridge for him, etc.
He hasn't had the opportunity to notice anything good that I've done. However, he keeps doing nice things for me.
I also know he doesn't like that I was so emotionally dependent on him. Therefore, I have been acting upbeat, happy, smiley.
So far, he has not changed at all. He did answer my email this morning when I thanked him for moving my car, which was unexpected. I thought he would just read it and cast it aside, so I don't know if that's a good or a bad thing or neither.
I also think that, in the past, I have not been a good listener. I haven't stopped what I've been doing to really talk to him. So I can make this a big change. But maybe I also haven't been communicative. But if being more communicative is pursuing, I think pursuing is worse. I am confused. I honestly am.
I need to ask him to bring the checkbook to counseling, since he has an hour and a half to go home and I need to go straight there from work. Do I text him and just ask politely for him to grab the checkbook?
He has been doing a 180 too. Like I said... exercising, reading, going out. Is that bad? I mean, is he really just enjoying his life without me? It seems like he is moving on so quickly already.
