Wow you guys provide great insight. As of right now I would say that everything "Surface" level is good. But a gal just knows when she is not number one. It has to do with "connection" and I am not talking physical although that would help! I have been the initiator of sex lately, and am shut down 50% of the time..."my stomach hurts must have been the jalapeños or the good n plentys...." that was last night.
I have really hung in 3 1/2 yrs now. I've done 180s, I have worked on me, gone back to college, gym, hiking, photography, ........nothing makes you feel like *rap though more than knowing that your husband is a liar......right to your face.....and nothing changes. YES we hang with friends, hike, go to ball games, parties, cook, garden, yada yada.........he spends time at home. But something is missing. I know he is seeking emotional and physical fulfillment outside of our marriage.
Not after all this time....not so sure about divorce busting......although maybe we wouldn't still be married if it weren't for all I've learned here. But I am beginning to ask myself "is this all there is for me?".
Me - 49 H - 56 S - 23 D - 20 Married 25 years H moved out 10/11/13 H moved back in 10/13/13 H moved out again 8/1/14
