Hi anclost! Good to hear you are doing well and enjoying time with the kids. I don't have a lot of time right now but wanted to offer a quick observation and a suggestion.
Your WAS has problems that are clearly beyond anything that she ever tried to blame on you. I remember how awfully she treated you and her unhappiness was supposed to be entirely your fault. Well, now that she has flown the coop and is free from you, she is still unhappy. So who's fault is that your's or her's?
Although your poster name is "anclost", I truly believe it is your W that is the one who is "lost." My two cents is that she may be starting to figure out that her happiness is of her own choosing. Her desire now to postpone the D is perhaps her way of saying, "Hey anclost, can we slow this train down some?"
To my mind, someone who is hell bent on D, is not going to want to slow down, no matter what. If you can tolerate it and hang on, I'd encourage you to postpone the D for as long as possible. Remember, it is time and losts of it that usually is the LBS's best friend.
I wish you well. Enjoy the kids and the beautiful summer in AK.
Take care!
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It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.
Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
