Kaffe Diem, thank you for your input. Yes I've read DB - a while back. I should probably read it again. It can get so confusing. But thanks for reminding me to GAL - I needed that.
MrBond, I really appreciate your comments. The problem is, I know... I know in my heart that I didn't do anything to be treated like that. I know it's in his head. But whenever I tried to confront him, he freaked out and it seemed like it made it even worse. It's like he wouldn't even GO there. He shows all the signs of an MLC, although he lashes out at me like crazy, to the point where I do feel emotionally abused, a day later he acts as if nothing happened. He's very forgetful, flaky, has stopped contacting most of our friends and seems very insecure...making jokes about his health and his age... I just can't get to him... Where the first 6 months I still saw 'glimpses' of the old H quite regularly, in conversation, and he was at least still talking about 'coming home', that seems all gone now. I know it's there somewhere...
As things seem 'on the edge' now, with the divorce and the house sale round the corner, I just wanted to make sure that I don't make anything worse, really.
He's a good man. He didn't 'fail' as a father, he was very young when it happened, it wasn't planned and he always did his best. In a way, I know he beats himself up about this way more than anyone else so I sometimes think he doesn't need me to tell him that, does that make sense?
Just sharing some thoughts...it helps already. Thanks for stopping by and commenting!
- I needed that.