I want to agree whole-heartedly with all that was said above. And tell you that just a few days ago I realized that part of my continued sadness is my STBXH and his blatent re-writing of history.
And it came to me that we were happy, many good things did happen, he did love me. Nothing can change that. I am keeping all that and letting the alien being go. Nothing can change what was. So right now the old him is dead to me.
Your 23 years is NOT wasted time. Cherish the memories, they are as real as the computer screen you are reading this on. Don't let this ruin any of that.
Aloha,
Wendy
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
