I wanted to ask your advice again regarding my situation.
First off, Sandi2 you were correct. My STBX has continued to still try and make my life miserable even though she is now in Dallas. Exactly as you predicted. She has been gone since April 26th, and it has been interesting to say the least. She is still living with her friend and her family, and was supposed to move into her own apartment next month. She started her job May 7th, and naturally she called yesterday to tell me how much she dislikes the hospital were she works and now wants to quit an find a new hospital.
She has called several times, usually texts me once a day etc. I try and keep it light and friendly but she quickly turns it into how miserable she is. How little money she has, she can't afford anything but a one bedroom apartment, can't afford to shoot skeet etc. Her car needed some maintenance and she was upset that I wouldn't pay for it. She stated that she would "resent me for life because I'm not helping her out financially" and she is going under.
BTW both my sons are here in ANC with me this summer. It is great having them home and we are actually enjoying ourselves. My oldest and I are keenly following the NBA playoffs, something we have never done before. Of course this is another source of contention with my STBX. She continually complains she hasn't seen the boys since Christmas and when is she going to see them.
It is actually stress free around here for the first time in quite awhile. I have many friends and actually flew a trip to HNL a couple of weeks ago and had a nice time.
But today was a bit of a surprise. Our divorce is final Jun 15th. But now she is quitting her job and has no medical benefits once our divorce is final. She called her lawyer and asked to extend the divorce final date to September 1st. She didn't ask me if this was okay with me, she just told her lawyer that I didn't have a problem with it and then copied me on the email after the fact. She wants to extend the date so as to stay on my benefits until she is under benefits from her new employer.
In the four years she lived here in ANC, she changed jobs four times. Always because of who she worked with and how they didn't appreciate her and her skills. I'm sure that surprises none of you.
My STBX only wants something from me if it benefits her. I truly don't remember the last time she did something nice toward me. I'm starting to question if my wife ever really loved me at all. Her level of anger toward me is something I am unable to understand fully.
So why do I still want to eventually make it work with her? Should I agree to extend the divorce date so she can stay on my benefits? Just thought you all would have some good advice or at least a good whack with a 2x4.