Hi Cyrena, Your words really help me, so thank you for that.
But what if there's no way to repair things? I will have to realize, throughout my life, that it was my behaviors and feelings that ended this marriage. That maybe if I had noticed sooner, or really took things seriously, there would have been a way to save us? There could have been a way to get back to how we were when we were happy and in love. My husband's self esteem is as low as it could be right now, and I'm at least partially responsible. That's a lot to accept right now.