Thanks for the feedback. I am getting much better. I did a drunk dial on saturday night...it was a friggen mess. This is a really rare thing since i didnt drink very often in the relationship. However, i have done a lot of soul searching and I have come to conclusion of a few things.
1) Divorce Busting- Worked..i fixed my stuff and i havent slipped back. I was a better husband and was more for what she was looking for. However, the things i needed her to take part in. (sex life, spending time) She failed at...she never put forth a true effort and i was too happy with being back together to see that. I also didnt have the confidence that we where back together.
2) Our Relationship is Over- I dont want to go back to that relationship. If my wife and i did get back together she is going to need to earn it. She is going to have to start being committed to the relationship and working with me to make this work. It doesnt work if we are both not committed.
3)Goals- I have 3 goals.
1) Lose Weight (This is for goal 2) 2) Learn to Surf 3) Find my own place to live. (i am living with a friend)
She told me today that she is filing for a divorce on saturday. I showed her support and ask a few questions. I told her i would be there for her if she needs to talk about her mom. However, i didnt push..I let it be and showed that i was ok with what is happening. She thinks its a game to me and i am just trying to win. Well, sadly i have to stop caring because the path of me caring is just devastating me.
Dont get me wrong. I am hopeful but it will take time and desire to fix this.
Thanks for all your guys support.
M:33 W:32 Married 10/28/07 C: B13 G10 (Both from different relationships) 12/30/09 Bomb Divorce Busted 2/04/10 5/15/12 Bomb 2
