Originally Posted By: jks
We talked for hours and hours last night and it just really dug up a lot of emotions that I've been feeling lately. I'm starting to think that talking about it so much isn't as healthy for me as I thought. It's like... I've been over this time and time again. I don't want to focus on this anymore.


I got to that point too, I dreaded starting up with a new MC or IC because I'd have to go back and tell the whole story again and that would leave me feeling badly for days. Initially it's cathartic to get it off your chest if you find a sympathetic ear, but eventually it becomes destructive because it sets you back in your healing process.

Your dream triggered me -- when we started reconciling and W was still getting over her lost love, she kept having dreams where I as the antagonist. She's wake up and tell me about all the bad things I'd done in her dream. That felt good -- I'm so glad we're beyond that now.

Accuray


Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015