Zig posted some stuff about working through dreams that really helped me. Basically to not look at the people but look at the emotions you felt. Don't worry about what happened but what were the emotions YOU felt in the dream and how could you have helped someone in the dream (or even helped yourself) It really made me realize a pattern I was doing with H. I'm happy to say I've been dream free for a few days now.
Well I had one last night but I can't even remember that!
My room and sleeping has been an issue. I even noticed the other day that I have continued sleeping on my side of the bed leaving his empty.
We stopped having a routine about 6 months into our R, because of my job and then just because he likes to stay up late. REALLY late and then is always tired. But acts like a little kid if you say well maybe you should go to bed before 2am ANYWAY!!!!
Today I ordered a new duvet cover/pillow cases set. I also ordered 3 canvas prints of very girly pictures. I'm reclaiming my room. The bed right now still reminds me of him in a way. And when he left I gave him a piece of furniture and took one of his and another we bought but never "connected" with them.
Anyway I am reclaiming my space. I find if I wake up in a bad/space/depressed mood, I'll lay there for 10 mins and instead of thinking about that sadness I do the whole 10 things I'm grateful for. It starts my day right.
I am off to the salon on Friday. I am so excited I haven't had a manicure in MONTHS. Plus I'm getting cut and color done too!
