The area that looks odd is something that he did when he came to our house last week without telling me he was going to do it....I have no intention of fixing/finishing projects that he started.
Then I wouldn't bring it up. You're in a tricky position where you're both paying for a house and plan on splitting the profit but only one of you is living in it.
I think you should email him and set a date for about a month from now to talk about things.
Meet with a lawyer before then, decide what you want to do about the house. He obviously doesn't want to rush you on the decision but at some point there needs to be a plan.
I understand you're angry about the car, it would have been better if he'd talked about whether he was going to pay. Did you ever talk to him or just assume from his deposits?
Do you want the car? Or do you want the option of having the car and having him pay for it?
Sometimes we hang on in strange ways. If the car is a "family car" then maybe you would actually enjoy selling it and getting a Single Maggie car that would be cheaper.
