Why don't you clean the gutter and spray for ants and fix the area that looks "odd"?
I, personally, would not announce my intention to meet with a L. I would just do it.
You talk about the car but he had not brought that up. If he tries to change the terms of the agreement later, then you bring up the documentation. Maybe ask the L when you meet (soon) what your rights are about that to see if it would be beneficial to get some kind of separation agreement in place for your finances.
You don't need to announce you are going to stick up for your rights. Just do it, and your actions will say it for you.
