If it makes sense to her, it makes sense to her. She probably has a good rationale for everything she's done. That doesn't mean you have to see it that way.
It doesn't need to make sense to you. A lot of what happens in these situations doesn't make sense to the LBS. Tying to make sense of it will drive you batty.
I'm sure you've heard this before but getting out of her head and working on detaching is the only thing you have control of.
Work on you. Become the man you want to be.
You wrote this in an earlier post: I've given up on the DB'ing as it seems she knows exactly what I'm doing and when I show happiness she is cruel and going forth with her affair. But when I'm depressed she is almost the opposite.
Do you see how you've given control out you and your emotions over to her? That's not healthy.
What complaints did she have about you?
Which ones made you cringe? Which do you agree with?
What have you done to change those things in you?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
