**Venting** (And better here than shooting off an email to the W)
good job!
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Could I ever take back a woman that has done this to our family? Do I want a W that can so easily abandoned her only child to be with a man that she has known for such short amount of time? I don't know, maybe I really need to get IC.
even those of us (like myself) who didn't have indfelidity during the M have these thoughts. We all wonder if they came back today do we even want them back? Who's to say it wouldn't work?
Only you can answer those questions like you said.
This is why Cadet says Gift of Time. It's all very confusing you love someone who hurt you. You want your family unit back but at what cost. Take this time to just concentrate on you. You don't have to worry if you would trust her in the future, because that option isn't really on the table right now. You can work on forgiving her, not because she "deserves it" but because you don't want to be someone who carries around anger and resentment. If you're a Christian think do we really deserve forgiveness for the things we do or does God give it willingly? If you're not, think about when you were a little kid. Your parents didn't sit around deciding whether or not to forgive you for things you did. They knew you didn't know better.
For better or worse she will always be you D's mom. So maybe you can find a way to forgive her based on that. Just work on you, healing the hurt from being betrayed, the pain at your M ending, concentrate on getting a handle on all the changes like you said you're suddenly a single parent. Just work on that.
And give yourself a break. I felt bad because I wasn't back on my feet feeling amazing within a month or something. But give yourself time. You will find that there is so much to do with you that you don't even need to worry about her...not yet!
