My DB coach told me something profoundly important I'll never forget.

She said

"it's NOT our job to 'teach our spouse a lesson' or 'show them the consequences of their actions',

which is what we like to call what we do when in actuality we are punishing them..."

Crimson, sorry to hijack, but i would like to ask 25 about this.

25,would you mind too much coming over to my thread and i could ask a couple of questions there - i could really do with your direct insight, please

thanks
zig

me 46 H 38
M10yrs T 11
S10
BD ow 8/11
h filed 9/25/12


"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"