Wow, I'm living nearly the same thing. We are both still in the same house, same bed, no sex, no ILY, no kisses hello or goodbye since 5/4/12, our 10th anniversary and date of our last argument. He has emotionally detached from me and says he doesn't think he can "come back". I discovered DB on 5/5/12 and have just finished reading DR today. Been trying to implement the techniques...thought we had a little breakthrough about 10 days ago, but it was short lived. I know I need to be A LOT more patient. I finally decided to try some telephone coaching (we have each done some MC and IC). The kicker of still living in the same house is that my husband's job provided housing, so if anyone is going to move out it needs to be me. And I have no intention of doing that right now, so it kind of works to my advantage.
M:39 H:39 S/15, S/11 (both adopted in 2004, my step-nephews, now our kids) M10, T13 Multiple bombs. Latest one 5/4/12, our 10th anniversary. Still living together and sharing a bed up until 7/18/12.
