Well because he is an only child, no siblings to play or fight with...
I suppose there is a chance the wife has more kids, so maybe he'll have some of those memories...
Peringo- don't know why YOU can't have more kids w/her, or someday perhaps if you don't reconcile
have them with another partner OR adopt...
but your signature line about infidelity drives me nuts.
Do you think your w had an affair in a vacuum? I"m NOT defending her or adultery but I'm always struck by how some people see it so plain and black and white...
If you want to punish your wife for infidelity, good luck busting your divorce...
if you want to see your own role in how she got into the arms of OM, then look in the mirror and work on that guy
My DB coach told me something profoundly important I'll never forget.
She said
"it's NOT our job to 'teach our spouse a lesson' or 'show them the consequences of their actions',
which is what we like to call what we do when in actuality we are punishing them..."
furthermore you are mind reading if you think your w feels NO pain. It must have taken her a lot to get where she is...
and finally, If you are holding onto anger to punish someone else,
that's like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes.
Let it go & move forward.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
