thanks for your opinions on Retrovaille... I've been looking into that as well, but I'm not sure I can get my WAW to agree to go... something to shoot for...
One of the couples that attended had been separated for 7 months, just finished all their paperwork a few weeks ago and were just about finished. The wife casually mentioned it to the husband and said she'd split it if he wanted to go. He wanted to get closure, and be certain he was making the right choice, so he agreed. When he showed up on Friday night, he said he wasn't even sure if his soon to be ex was even going to come....they didn't talk much, so he just wasn't sure. She did show up, and they stuck it out, and before we left on Sunday, he shared his story and said he decided that morning, during one of the exercises, that he did love his wife and he did want to be married to her. It's a long road for them, learning to communicate and care for each others feelings, but it's pretty amazing how it is able to bring people back from the brink in a very short amount of time.
Originally Posted By: Fightfire00
how long are you prepared to work..? do you have what it takes..? keep it going... I believe in you... be good and stay safe...
For me, I really was hoping we'd come out of this and my wife commit to something like "yes, I want to work on it." I wasn't looking for a miracle, just a commitment to do something about it. I didn't get that, but I did get some baby steps. At least she's still agreeing to do the follow-ups. For my part, I've got to be more patient.
How long am I prepared to work on it? I think as long as I see baby steps in the right direction I'll stick with it, even if that is years longer. I don't expect it to be a short term fix....it took us a long time to get here and it's going to take a long time to change our bad habits and open up to each other.
