Funny how she just went to a bar with her single gf and now doesn't want to wear her rings. I think she wants the freedom of being single with no wedding ring. Also, she can go out and have fun -- but she is questioning you. I read somewhere that when one spouse starts accusing the other spouse of having a affair -- the accusing spouse is mostly the guilty party. You attitide above is right on -- you can't control what she is doing -- the only thing you can control is what you are doing. Good luck -- I have a feeling with her having an enabling gf who goes to bars for hook ups -- your wife may fall deeper into this fog.