Detach from w as much as possible. Take care of yourself and your daughter. You wife is in a fog now -- you can't worry what she says or does -- and most importantly you can't worry about what she is thinking as she is the only one that knows this. Follow the advice from the "experts" on this forum. Become a better human and dad. Make these changes for YOU. Making these changes for you will make you a better person -- for yourself --- no matter how things turn up with your wife.