Sayitaintso – you are right; nowhere in the books does it say to be cold. I guess I am just struggling with how much contact to have or not have. She told me a couple weeks ago not to avoid her and another time I told her that I needed to let her go she asked why. So trying to give her space but to what extent, I don't know. I don't call her for a couple days and it feels like she is dissapointend in me but at the same time she is not calling me, so I guess I just answered it for myself. Hmmm... She spend the weekend up at the cabin with her friends again this past weekend and when she got home my kids ran down to say hello. M asked my kids why I did not come down and they told her that I was trying to give her space. I felt bad and ended up calling. We had a nice conversation about her weekend and what we were up to. It is really hard to just let go when I am not sure that is what she wants. I think she wants me to still be there for her but at the same time give her space. I guess it might also help to understand that W is a psychologist and very good a reading people.
Brit45 – Oh my you are good! While it kind of hurts to read some of it, I know it is true. In the past I have gotten so defensive and worried about doing the wrong things, I either put up walls or end up making it about all about me (not meaning to but that’s what I am coming to understand). Really some great points that you have given so thank you very much! I will keep reading and posting and working on myself. Thanks again for the responses. It is so great to get feedback from others in similar situations.
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