Retrovaille weekend is over and I highly recommend it. I've spent the good part of the last 12 months reading and thinking about myself and it was a pretty good validation that I'm on the right track. For my wife, there was no immediate change...we actually got into a heated exchange on the last exercise of the weekend. She gets it, she just doesn't understand how she can "choose" to forgive, or make the choice to love. Hopefully in time.
For those interested, the program basically focuses on learning to communicate better, primarily feelings. Even though we didn't see dramatic changes for us, it was pretty amazing to see the impact it had on other people in the program...very inspiring.
