but will reach out when it get's closer to D's Bday to see if she want to go shopping for gift.
So this already happened? I would have advised you NOT to do it!
Also I thought things were getting better with me and H and then he told me he was thinking of moving in with her. I freaked out, he pulled back because he felt like his friendship was leading me on. (I think)
Anyway, what Lost is saying is true if you make her choose it will never be you. People don't want to be told to make a choice. Think of yourself as a salesman selling a product do you tell a person to buy your TV or get out your store? or do you try to make them feel comfortable, give them SPACE to look around, answer any questions but DON'T initate talks about the product AND LET THEM DECIDE.
People don't like to be sold too, they like to feel like they made a choice. Everytime you want to text, email, go somewhere with her think of a pushy salesman.
All the time you spend thinking about her, her R, and your feelings for her you're taking away from YOU. Do something for yourself everyday, be a good friend to yourself, and it will change everything in your life.
I don't want to sound harsh but your email sounds really demanding. No love story ever started with CHOOSE ME or else. I know you feel vindicated in the fact that you are her H and the two of you have children together but that's not how she sees it...and since you both know where you stand and your decision on the M, it's how she sees it that counts.
And as my IC said to me do you really want someone you had to chase and force to be with you? no I don't think you do. you want someone who can't spend another second without you.
