Hey LA - thanks for dropping in. Haven't heard from you in awhile - and I hope you are doing well!
With regard to $$$, I have never breathed a word about it to her at all in this process. Not even a vailed reference - I have literally been emotionless about money with her. Truth be told, SHE has said more about it than I have (though very little as well). I really take steps to keep my financial fears away from her because she thinks that's all I care about. If there is ONE thing that I haven't blown thus far - it's that. That said, I do get fearful about my future and my finances from time to time - not gonna lie. And yes, at times I DO get angry or resentful - but I keep it to myself and move on.
Re: codependence, I have never really thought about it from that angle. I don't FEEL as though I am - but maybe I don't even understand what it means. I think I have heaved so many "dysfunctional" mantles upon myself over the last several months I don't know if I have room for another!
I guess the bottom line for me is that there is not easy way to let her go - I just have to gut it out.
