Crimson, there are 12-Step groups for Codependents and I'm sure you could find several in your city.

And the resentment you harbor over the money is going to color every interaction you have with her. There will be no hope for a good R with her, M or D, if you can't get over that.

I do wish you well.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss