golf mom, You are going to need to develop a tougher skin to deal w/him. Why are you feeling bad about the relationship? YOu have done nothing wrong. He is saying and doing things that are called "lashing out" because he's trying to destroy everything that was ever good in his life. Why? Because he is in crisis and he thinks that the root cause of his unhappiness is the relationship, family and his responsibilities pre-crisis. Trust me, if your h wasn't in crisis, he would still be the man that you have loved for all of those years.
You are no where done w/him...you love him and that's why you need to step back and allow him to swing in the wind. You can still care about him, but from afar. Your focus now should be directed on to you and your life. Now go NC and only contact him if it is an emergency.
Don't beat yourself up over last nights exchanges. We all have done it and we all have touched the hot stove and learned what to do and not do. You will learn as well.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
