SS - thank you for sharing your perspective on this. One of the things I've been working on in our R is to not overreact to these type of triggering events. Perhaps I've swung the pendulum too far in the opposite direction but I am trying to do what I think she would want. I wasn't seething although in the past I might have.
Why are you trying to do what you think she would want? Why aren't you doing what you want? You don't know what she wants unless she tells you and she is not gving you that information right now so do your best not to mind read and base your actions and decisions on what is best for you, not her.
