How many licks does it take...?

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This is awesome! What are you leaning on doing with it? Residential? Commercial? Buying or selling agent? Good timing because the market is starting to pick up finally, no? (or at least stopped dropping?).

My interest is in residential real estate although I've had this desire to buy and own apartments buildings for some odd reason (big $$$ opportunity if you buy it right and when you rehab you can get tax free cash out refinance loan and do it all over again with the proceeds). I've learned that it is better to to listings as opposed to helping buyers find properties. Yes, I think the timing is very good. And I was surprised to learn that it is the agent that interviews the broker and not the other way around. It would be nice to be in the drivers seat for a change!

Nah, sometimes quiet is ok. But would you sit in dead silence with a friend of yours, say your roommate, if he got in a wreck and you went to go pick him up? What might you say? "Hey, I'm glad you weren't seriously hurt. How you feel? You ok?" And if they say "Fine." "OK, good to hear, I bet getting into a car accident can shake you up." And then you go on bs'ing about whatever or if it seems they wanna be quiet, then that's fine too, you be quiet. Wasn't clear from y'all's interaction what the tenor of the silence was like.

OK, I understand now. I should point out that the silent ride home was not one of tense, angry silence. It was really more of we both said what we needed to say before we pulled away and that was pretty much it. I see though where I could have interjected some light comments that would have provided an opportunity to validate. Missed opportunity - Ack!

This was before I said I had had enough and the whole sitch didn't work for me and I was going NC. It was when I was still in waiting/hoping friend mode.

I went to rescue her. She left me waiting on the sidewalk of a busy street for like 45 minutes trying to juggle our 3 girls and keep them safe while she was texting away with a friend of hers non-stop in the car about what happened, waiting for the cops and basically ignoring me. I dropped everyone back off at her place, and she thanked me for bailing them out. I was angry and disappointed that she took me so much for granted (I had unmet expectations, also by this point I realized that other women did not treat me that way). I resolved not to allow myself to rescue someone that didn't also value me.

I left her to deal with all the fallout, insurance, etc. stuff

Thanks for sharing that part. It helps me to see how you handled it or came to how you handled your W further down the road.

Since opening the claim, I've left my W to handle every other aspect of the accident, including rental car, going back to get personal belongings from the storage lot, arranging for towing to the repair shop, etc. It is all on her now.

I failed to mention that yesterday after S10 and I got back from church, I was waiting at the house for W to get back from her zumba classes. She finally gets home and since S10 is upstairs playing video games, we began to chat. I was in a good mood and W seemed to be as well, We talked a little about the accident, about the boys, etc. She asked me how church was (not something she would normally ask about) and then she asked me how often I go to the gym. That seemed like an odd question but I said "a couple of times a week. Why do you ask." And her response just about floored me! She said, "you look really good. How much do you weigh now?" I answered the question and then asked her how she feels with her zumba and we went on from there. Then I made my exit.