Well everyone...thanks for the support and advice. I just laid things out for W...I picked pieces from all the posts here and I think it went about as well as it possibly could have (well, short of her telling me that she loves me and wants to work on building a wonderful marriage).

This thread has now come full circle...I have been given crown and miter over myself - thanks to you all. I will post details on tonight's events sometime soon...I need to get some sleep now.

BITS
M: 35
W: 35
T14, M11
D9, S6
ILYBINILY: June 09
Unofficially Separated (long distance): 1/2/11
W came home: 3/17/11
EE: July 2012
Dropped the rope: Oct 2012
Piecing: April 2013
Not piecing: April 2014
Stuck.