H has been with OW for a very long time I found out tonight. He has been lying to friends and family.
I guess I always knew how LNG it has been but put my head on the sand.
I was told tonight ' she has his hear' so basically I have nothing.
This is a good reality check since I am seeing him in two days. I am more convinced to keep my plan of being distant yet friendly. I hope this is the DB way.
I don't want to let my thoughts go into the awfulness of imagining him and her. Am going to glide over that and think of the bigger picture....me and the kids. My growth and development. My time my space. For my family. For me. For my kids.if he decides to come along its his choice.
She went with him to have his back surgery. He left us to be with her. He has detached himself from his kids, his family, his friends, his life, his work. For her.
Its not my problem.
My concern is something else.
Am so nervous.
Busting, I am so sorry that you have found out some more gut-wrenching details of your H's activities. I am at the same place this weekend. My head has been firmly planted in the sand.
The lies to friends and family are also hard to fathom. (1) how could our h's do this so bald-facedly for so long?, and (2) how could friends and family believe them? - when we knew what was going on, but no-one else seemed to be able to believe it.
Your plan of 'distant yet friendly' seems to be the perfect solution for your trip with the kids.
On feeling nervous - I was advised by a very wise woman on this site (who has now reconciled) to: TAKE BACK YOUR POWER. Your nerves are a good sign that you are about to do something new and different that will empower you.
Like my H, yours has detached from his kids, his family, his life, his work to be with this woman. Let him find out, fully and completely, what this will mean for the rest of his life.
