DB coach suggested some light "flirting" but to play it off as playful and fun, not pursuit... not sure about this... I think it's too soon to start flirting with her... I have been trying to stay connected by casually touching her in ways that she can't pull back from... so far she hasn't protested or kept her distance... something to think/pray on I think...
M:40 W:31 S:8 S:5 D:8(prev. relationship) Bomb dropped: 5/10/12 It's not you it's me MO: 6/1/12 T:14 M:9
really starting to wonder if I should have said no to W request to do laundry tomorrow night at the house... maybe if she has to find somewhere else to go, it will show her that this is the life she chose when she moved out... am I just being used here...? I'm stuck at a crossroads... not sure what to do... thoughts..?
M:40 W:31 S:8 S:5 D:8(prev. relationship) Bomb dropped: 5/10/12 It's not you it's me MO: 6/1/12 T:14 M:9
really starting to wonder if I should have said no to W request to do laundry tomorrow night at the house... maybe if she has to find somewhere else to go, it will show her that this is the life she chose when she moved out... am I just being used here...? I'm stuck at a crossroads... not sure what to do... thoughts..?
That you are feeling used is probably a good indicator that you are being used. It is good that you can recognize this. Learn from this and perhaps don't be so accommodating in the future.
not really "feeling" used... I will have the boys at my house and had nothing to do anyway, but I'm just wondering if I AM being used... I may just be reading too much into this and just need to let it go.. let her do her laundry and go about my business like she's not there.. another opportunity to "detach" and give her the space she wants... then again, DB coach suggested "flirting" at this point... so what better time to do that when she's doing laundry... grr... too many variables...
M:40 W:31 S:8 S:5 D:8(prev. relationship) Bomb dropped: 5/10/12 It's not you it's me MO: 6/1/12 T:14 M:9
I agree.. it's definitely a slippery slope, and I'm not sure after her being gone just over a week it's the right time for that either... money is not a problem for her, she has been given a large amount by her parents to get apartment and furnish it... she has the money... and any money she would save will be lost in fuel driving the extra 20 miles to the house... and then 20 miles back... makes no sense...
M:40 W:31 S:8 S:5 D:8(prev. relationship) Bomb dropped: 5/10/12 It's not you it's me MO: 6/1/12 T:14 M:9
Hmmmm..... so whats the real purpose... to snoop, maybe, make sure the house is clean and well organized... remove any photos of her, see if she notices..
Me: 37 W:33 S: 2 M: 9/5/09 Suspected: 1/7/12 Confirmed: 2/10/12 Served: 3/29/12 W moved out 3/30/12 First court 5/17/12 HELP!
she has already been to the house twice to pick the boys up before I went to work, and because they were sleeping, I left her there alone with them while I left for work... can't imagine it's to snoop... and she's already seen the pictures are still where she left them (those that she didn't take)... and she should have seen that I'm keeping a clean house... who knows... I'm going to be laid back and easy going and go into it with NO expectations... I will look at it as an opportunity to show her I've made positive changes...
M:40 W:31 S:8 S:5 D:8(prev. relationship) Bomb dropped: 5/10/12 It's not you it's me MO: 6/1/12 T:14 M:9
thank you Peringo... I am going to try... I know in my heart that we have worked through WAY to much to give up now... God's plan will be revealed in time... and His plan will be Awesome and way better... for now, until I'm shown otherwise, I BELIEVE that that plan includes my W...
M:40 W:31 S:8 S:5 D:8(prev. relationship) Bomb dropped: 5/10/12 It's not you it's me MO: 6/1/12 T:14 M:9
