Now my foam noodle 2x4: Last summer I saw a movie that I thought H would like, and he might have. When it came on Netflix I wanted to send him the link so he could watch it. I'm so thoughtful.
The real reason? There was a message in the movie I wanted him to get. After asking advice here, I didn't send the link.
Not only a message within but it's pursuing. I see things all the time that I want to tell him about like the silly a tv show we used to like has a new season starting, or a video I know he'll like or whatever because we have shared SO MUCH. But I resist because I don't want to pursue, I don't to put pressure and I want him to miss me. I think I went the other way too far because I'd stop myself from posting something on FB because I'd wonder if I was hoping he'd see it. And it all a bit mind f*ck.
Right now you need those boundaries maybe one day when everything is settled even if you're not R you can be friends and send each other film recommendations or give CDs but right now it's detach detach detach haha
