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Sophie sounds like the 180 you need to make is to get duct tape put it over your mouth so you can not talk.
Then tape your fingers together so you can not text.

You can keep your eyes and ears open though as long as you do not believe anything he says and half of what he does.


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SG, Cadet gave me the same advise some years ago and it seems to be working. Try it for yourself. You'll feel better. smile

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Haha, I guess that is good advice.

I guess I just feel so skeptical and not at all optimistic. We haven't gone a day without talking for the last four years, so to have gone four days without talking feels so weird.

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It's so hard to not believe what he says. He has never lied to me before. He is just so set on the fact that it's over. He is being polite to me. I'm just so confused.

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It's nit that he's lying, it's that he is likely honestly misinterpreting his feelings but doesn't know it yet.

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Do you think that's likely in this situation?

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Neither you nor I know the answer to that question right now. But it will take you longer to get the answer if you don't start DBing now.

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I am going to do whatever I can, and I am going to try to get Divorce Busting (the book) next week. I'm so scared to go back.

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On my way back to the apartment. His best friend and his fiancé just announced that she is pregnant. He will be there in Australia for it, but I won't. He didn't even text to make sure I got here safely. I can't deal.

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how do you know you won't be there in australia? this sounds like self pity and that is a negative emotion and does you no good.

did you expect him to text you to see if you arrived safely? expectations will set you up for disappointment and more negative emotions; self pity, anger, resignation, etc.

yes, you do need to get the books. you will get lots of guidance from them.


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