MRBond, I admire your standing tough in the face of adversity, and yes alot of us on this site have been down the same road. I have been seperated now for a year, and my wife filed in Jan 12 and I am still working slowly to prevent it... The gentleman you are posting with needs to get some help, so that he can learn to set his emotions aside and allow time to work in his favor... I must admit that your story of being apart for four years and now reconciling...wow...that is a long time... Anyway, this is a good thread...