Ro...I did NOT mean to express that the affiar was in anyway your fault...
it is NOT
that was his choice and his alone
I meant that you should consider her an nonentity because she is nothing really...she is simply an excuse
I do not believe he loves her but if he pulls away from her he has to admit his own mistakes and is he willing to do that?
by giving her an actual MEANING, you are givng her more importance than she deserves
you are above her and treat her and the situation as such
it is NOT a competiton between you and this other person
you are married to him and until he divorces you, you are his wife
use that know that believe that
when you start giving her power over that, he believes it and so does she
maybe simply requesting that he stop speaking to her for 6 months...I mean if they are in love, surely 6 months to spend workng with you, remembering why he married you etc is not too much to ask...they will have their whole lives together and then use those 6 months being the person you want to be and the person he fell in love with
you have a great start on that already
and
remember
he hasn't seen her since February
but he has seen you he has been living with you enjoying you
Hey fig. Your posts are always to the point. LOL
I will think about the 6 months thing. In theory it sounds like a good idea, but needs to be discussed at the right time. Maybe now is a good time or maybe not.
Him living here has not been easy but I know what you mean. We had a great weekend, with some surprises that could really affect where we go from here. So I'm just waiting to see how it all plays out.
