from the WAS to being walked away on

[strongerthanever]

Hubby turned into the was 4 months ago. I did all of the major no nos until finding db. My going dark and doing 180s showed promising results. he would text and compliment me on my life changes and call me "his worry".

The Deal is that he is still having an ps with his married boss, he had not changed anything and our 2 year old girls still go back and forth every week. His life is so comfortable that he won't change. A few months ago he admitted he lives me and is confused. Well I'm not and I'm not tolerating this anymore.

Don't go throwing stones, but I'm filling. I have everything ready, and next Tuesday, when they are with daddy, I'm doing it. I even have my text ready (have not initiated contact since going dark a month ago). Anyhow, my text will read "I have learned and grown so much that I can no longer stay in this relationship the way that it is. I filed for divorce today. I just wanted to give you a heads up that you will be served your papers in the next few days". Then I'm going dark again.

And the thing is, it's the truth. I'm not perfect, but I know what I want. My girls and I deserve the same. It is a true 180 because I have always told him how much I love him, care...you know the speech. I'm not living the rest of my life crying every day.

I figure if he's going to continue his pa, it's going to happen whether I make myself a victim or start moving on. I really really hope this wakes him up. Either way, this is the beginning of the new, happier, healthier me.

I will be sure to update!