Navy Part of what allows an addict to justify their choices is being able to blame someone else. She will never "understand". Not until you are out of the picture for her to blame, and even then she may still never get it.
My concern is why are you so afraid of being seen as the "bad guy"? It's not like she doesn't already blame you for all her misfortune. Just look at her in the eyes and tell her. I can tell you are not happy so I'm going to give you the best presen I can give you: your Freedom.
More importantly why are YOU so afraid of being the bad guy. You know over in Afghanistan the Taliban calls us the bad guys. By your logic we need to stop combat operations, until they realize THEY are the bad guys we're not. Until then we are to just take it up the chin.
Come on man, you know better than this. Think of it as giving out well deserved UCMJ, you're not going to hold back because the guy refuses to admit he's wrong.
Most importantly just ask yourself why are YOU so afraid of being the bad guy.
