2, In my relationship I was the fixer, the rescuer, the controller, an enabler. This is not the only destructive aspect of my failed relationship. It was a significant aspect and at the root cause of the failure. XW and I were cast firmly in our roles. I was involved too deeply to see it until it was too late.
Originally Posted By: Starsky309
2tP, I really think that 90% of your problem is simple co-dependence. That is where I would focus your study, and your efforts.
JS & Starsky - I am in the process of exploring these ^^^ with my IC. Thanks for perspective and for sharing!
Originally Posted By: JustStunned
In my remaining relationships now I am attempting to wait until asked. When I can wait no longer I offer assistance and wait for it to be accepted.
This is a really great way of managing the control, rescue, enabler pattern. It is a hard habit to break, that's for sure! But I think it is a worthy endeavor.
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