She's so good at blaming, it makes me wonder if I did something wrong. I found out today she was upset because I ate leftover fruit from last night at the dance. She intended to have it for herself, but failed to tell me her intentions. She told me to have some in front of our friends, and then scolds me afterwards for not reading her mind. I'm guessing there's more going on than this, which probably has nothing to do with me. I told her today calmly, that I can't read her mind, and that she should have told me she would have liked the fruit for later. She wanted to be seen as generous, but didn't want me to eat the fruit.
I went swimming this morning, to release some stress and get out of the house. I now have to decide whether or not to go to a joint private lesson. I guess staying home would be a form of hiding. I'll go and see how it goes. If it gets too out of hand, I can leave the lesson. Hopefully, the teacher will set limits as-needed.
Her part-time cooking job is ending this summer. She will now have to enter the job market. I think she's afraid. I do think a part-time job is in her best interests. She's used the one day cooking job, with her sister as employer as a way to procrastinate from job-hunting. I think a job has to be better than sleeping in every day, sitting at her computer, and not going out until the evening, most of the time.
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CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
