The children are at a party. I am waiting to see is DH is coming. My friend who sent OW a PM through FB to say she should be ashamed of herself told me that OW had responsed that "all the Deaf people KNEW what I was like". I have never met OW, nor half the people DH now hooks up with in the Deaf community.
I am trying to keep perspective on it all. We have been here before, with DH's parents. I have been the scapegoat for his mother and been the bad person for the last 10 years for "splitting up their family". Luckily in that respect the only people who thought that to be true were his P's and brothers and his father's family who live away (because they only had his P's word for it.) His mother's side of the family live in our area and they DO know the truth about how abusive his P's are because they have all been victims too. So I have been happy to bear the brunt of the abuse from her all these years, because I know how she operates and I could emotionally detach from it all, to ensure our own family unit were kept safe.
It tears me apart now that he is doing the same to me (even though I know I shouldn't take it personally). The fact that people I have known for years appear to be taking his side and overlooking the timing of his leaving and the flaunting of his new relationship on public FB. I have remained quiet on that front, I do not contact them (hope to never be in any contact with OW) or play tit for tat or anything. I have kept everything private other than to a small group of friends who will each be there for me and the kids in their own way if he fails to be there for the birth.
Hurts so much when I have spent so many years trying to protect ALL of us (including him) from this same type of Narcissistic abuse.
