My Marriage

[MrD]

Marriage counseling didn't go well last night.
The therapist mentioned that from the look on my W's face that we should not work on the marriage but instead move to work out how to seperate.
Ugh!

[MrBond]

Fill us in to what the therapist said. What did your W also say?

[MrD]

I recorded the session but don't know if I could share it.
My W basically said that she wants to seperate and is past trying to salvage the marriage. She instead wants to work on resolving a friendly agreement for the children. In the mean time we can't afford to seperate but need to focus on providing a good environment for the two boys.
My W was also confronted about her changing life decision to save our marriage be cause OM showed up. The therapist called her not being honest about that. She really got frustrated at that point near the end of our session.

[MrD]

Another statement she made to the theropist was the reason for not telling me how she felt earlier was that she felt I felt the same, and she was insecure also and was afraid I'd leave if she told me she was unhappy.
But as time went on, she went through the five steps of grievances and finally accepted it and decided to move on.
Does that make sense?

[MrD]

At the same time that acceptance happens her old boyfriend gets seperated in another part of the country and they connected online at first then he moves back home.
That's about where we are at now.

[MrD]

Today the W is pretty happy and sharing her schedule and making plans for us as a family this weekend.

[MrD]

Took a nice 500 mile trip on the bike to clear my mind.
I think I'm going to give in and scrounge up enough money to move out.
I'm scared and haven't lived on my own in almost 28 years.

[MrD]

Maybe we can draw up a contract without paying for legal seperation

[MrD]

Last Thursday on the way to the last counseling W mentioned that she was taking S7 fishing !! Wow I thought I can't imagine you doing that. But I said instead "do you know what to do when he catches a fish" and she said I'll figure it out. She then said do you have another pole for me? I said, I think so, I'd have to look.
Well last night when my W was out at a "PTO dinner" ??
S7 and I made a cake from scratch and it is lately one of his proudest achievements, as we did this a couple of weeks earlier and he got great reviews from the family he shared with.
Anyways he said that tommorow the W was taking him fishing. So early this morning I put out S7's pole and one for the W and the tackle box. This should be and intresting day!

[MrD]

I just checked my email and there was an email from the W proving that she was going to a PTO dinner last night.
Yesterday afternoon I told her that I didn't believe that she was doing that and told her to have a good time with her OM in a text message and stated that she has ruined our M with her lack of communication about feelings about our R.
I don't really care right now.
Today I'm looking forward getting a place of my own and move on if possible. Money is really tight, and I want to detach more than ever before. I welcome the thought of occupying my time with getting out on my own.
Still waiting for God to help me decide. In the mean time I feel like I'm making allot of the wrong decissions based on seeing the W every day, and noticing what she's doing.