The hardest thing is to detach from them. I have heard it also from my W, dont get your hopes up,I'm sorry, I dont want to torture you like this anymore. We have been separated for 11 months. I moved out for 3 then came back. I try to stay away from her when we are at home, but we have a 5 year old and we eat dinner together. Really hard.
It is difficult to detach. Have you ever heard the line, "slow is fast and fast is slow"?
That's why it is so important to drop the rope and detach. Until we detach, we are standing in our S's way to (in their minds) happiness. The sooner they are allowed to take their journey without us standing in the way, the sooner they get to experience reality without us. Until that takes place, we do not know what that reality is and our WAS's may never let us in for us to know what it is.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
