Did your spouse ever say, at any point, that there was no way to turn this around? Their mind was set regardless of what you did? This is where I am right now and I am trying to remain hopeful.
Oh yeah. In her mind I was the root of all of her unhappiness. She told me some downright mean things. She gave me the "false hope" speech on several occasions. She told me that marriage counseling was useless, etc.
Now she is taking the bull by the horns and looking into individual counseling on her own. She realizes that she is responsible for her part in the demise of our M. As she told me yesterday, it took reality to hit her in the gut.
More reassurance - My wife has said the exact same thing. Went to counseling a couple time, then decided it wasn't doing any good, and has said "don't get your hopes up, I'm not reconsidering."
Me: 36 Her: 35 Together 7/09 Married 8/7/10 Separate rooms since at least April 11 "I've decided I want a divorce" 12/5/11 She moves out of state/files 2/7/12 Dissolution final 5/12
