In the end it's all BS. They may have very well moved on in their mind, and there is nothing to do to let them go.
I think when we go into marriages we need to be sure of who we are with and understand the difficulties and pitfalls along the way.
After having cheated on people earllier in my life and having basically my last ten years stripped from me from being cheated on in a horrifying and brutal fashion, if I am ever again with a nother woman at the center of my life my actions will always say "I love you. You are important to me." And hers should too. They will know that cheating is adeal breaker, you may as well just leave.
I wish all of you thebest, but in these cases they usulaly move on and you should too.
