Oh, there are a multitude of ways to not file and not lose face. I would defer to others on this board on that, but the pain will ease and I urge you not to file so soon. April to August is nothing, 5 short months. I bet you will feel so much better in August if your GAL is working. For me, I got maybe bomb #3 in April 2012, less than 2 months ago and I then went into full DB mode, coaching, going dark, GAL, 180s etc. and I feel great now. I have got to the stage where I feel detached, knowing that it is a process, a journey that has no fixed destaination, and I feel very strong. No fear of the future.
If I were you, I would just not file, and not volunteer any reason. Hopefully some of the more experienced board members can come up with something to say if pushed. I know in VA you cannot file until 12 months of separation if there are minor children involved. Don't know where you are, but maybe there is something to be said for delay for kids sake?
M 53, W 48 T 25, M 18 S 15, D 11 "I'me done!" 6/13/2010 Exit started 8/21/2011 ILYBNILWY W consults with L 9/2011, no papers filed Separated 1/16/2012
